You're attractive and successful with a great personality and plenty of friends, but you keep hitting a brick wall when it comes to love. You just can't seem to meet the right person. You're either drawn to unavailable types or people who won't commit or you can't bring yourself to fancy the nice ones. You've run out of ideas about where to meet potential dates, become disillusioned with online dating and grown tired of meetup groups. You don't need someone to complete you but you're tired of doing everything on your own. You want someone to go on adventures with and to build a home with.
I've been there. By my early 40s, I had an impressive CV, a great career, a beautiful flat in North London and all the freedom and independence I'd ever longed for. I'd enjoyed my single days, my flirtations and flings, as well as a few relationships, but I'd also had periods of sadness and loneliness. Is this it? What have I been striving for? I knew I wanted love and companionship in my life. I knew I wanted to be in a committed relationship with someone - a real partnership. But I kept choosing the wrong guys and I rejected the good ones. I had no luck online (I was in my early 40s without children - men my age were looking for younger models) and I didn't know how to meet potential partners.
I'm now 46, engaged to be married and living with my partner by the sea in Dorset. How did I get here? I went on an inner journey of personal transformation. I looked inside myself, identified where I was going wrong, understood the roots of my behaviours, committed to change, mustered the courage to do things differently and stepped forwards into a new life. Along the way, I worked through my feelings around motherhood - my ambivalence towards having children - and I learned to accept 'what is' rather than chase 'what if'.
If you are ready to understand the real reasons for your singleness, take courageous steps and embrace a new way of dating and relating, I'd love to work with you. I offer 1-2-1 coaching and run How to Fall in Love courses for small groups of women.
I tailor all my packages to suit a client's individual needs. Depending on where you are on your journey, we might explore your relationship with yourself, self-love, self-care and your connection to your heart and intuition. We can identify and challenge any unhelpful relationship patterns that may be blocking you from love. We can explore setting healthy and loving boundaries, with yourself and others. We can endeavour to let go of any lost loves or old relationships that are standing in the way of new love. We can also work through your feelings towards motherhood - any ambivalence, panic or sense of loss. And we'll explore your dreams and visions for your life, making sure you are taking action on the things your heart desires, alongside exploring dating and relationships.
The goal is to help you feel good about yourself, create or consolidate a life that you love, get out and meet eligible partners while keeping healthy boundaries and navigate those tricky early stages of a relationship.
If you'd like to explore working with me, let's have a no obligation chat on the phone. Email email@example.com to arrange an appointment.
"I would have absolutely no hesitation in recommending Katherine to help and guide you through the emotional rollercoaster of dating and relationships. Katherine has helped me to see the blocks I have had to intimacy and relationships and helped me to understand when it is my intuition or my fear that's telling me to run a mile. She has also helped me understand my relationship triggers and work out if my reactions are rooted in the past or are about the here and now, encouraging me to take the time to process big feelings and act from a place of authenticity. Katherine's approach is a delightful mix of wisdom, gentleness, honesty, authenticity and humour. If you want to find real authentic love, Katherine is the one to help you on that journey of discovery," Catherine, 45, artist, now in a committed relationship with a man she calls her best friend.
Group Coaching - How to Fall in Love - A Six-Week Journey to the Heart
My unique How to Fall in Love course takes you on a transformational inner journey, helping you to change your relationship with yourself and remove your blocks to love so that you can form a healthy and loving relationship with a partner who'll cherish and value you and bring you joy.
"Katherine's course is exceptional because it helps you in so many different ways besides intimacy and finding love. You pay for the title of the course but you get so much more," - Neena, 46, course participant, 2017
The exercises I share with you during the course are based on the steps I took in order to fall in love wholeheartedly at 43 with a wonderful, emotionally healthy man, to whom I am now engaged. I have packaged up many of the lessons I learned on my own circuitous and sometimes painful journey to love, including the ways I overcame self-sabotaging behaviours in my romantic life that were keeping me single, how I learned to love and accept myself and my body fully so I could love and accept another, and how I challenged and worked through a deep-seated fear of commitment and intimacy that dated back to my childhood.
While we are all unique, with our own stories and journeys, I know from coaching single women in their 30s, 40s and 50s in the area of love and relationships that we share some of the same struggles and behavioural patterns. I know my story resonates deeply with many and that my coaching approach works.
So How to Fall in Love is for you if: *You are ready to go deep and to explore the real reasons for your singleness *You are open to the prospect of inner transformation in order to find love *You are ready to let go of unhealthy, self-sabotaging patterns in your romantic life *You are prepared to take the necessary steps to build a wholehearted, love-filled life *You are ready to prioritise yourself and invest in your future
I tailor the course to meet the needs of participants after receiving your pre-course questionnaires, but some of the topics we'll look at include: how to connect with our true feelings and our intuition, how to act in our best interests in all areas of our lives, how to identify and change any unhealthy relationship patterns and remove any blocks to love and how to take action to expand our social circles and meet potential dates. My intention is that you would emerge from the course with a stronger sense of self, greater self-esteem, more confidence, a deeper understanding of yourself and your patterns, more courage, a sense of playfulness and optimism in relation to dating, a vision of how you want your life to be and some action steps to move forward on your journey to love.
The course is based on my book, How to Fall in Love - A 10-Step Journey to the Heart, but while I would love you to read my book, I hope you can appreciate the real value of working through exercises as part of a supportive community of women and of having others to be accountable to. I have read far too many self-help books but failed to help myself. The only time I have changed is when I have committed to working with a group, with accountability partners or with a coach. Women who have taken my course have taken actions to improve their lives that they have been procrastinating over for years, some have returned to the dating arena with a new sense of playfulness and a greater sense of self-worth, while others have committed to their wellbeing, to self-care and to healthy eating.
My next course begins on January 8 and runs until Feb 18 (Valentine's Day falls in our final week).
For this investment, you receive a weekly exercise in your inbox, access to a secret Facebook community exclusive to those taking the course, weekly workshops via live video on specific topics (all will be recorded) and a fortnightly group coaching call (3 calls in total), during which I offer 1-2-1 guidance and feedback to each participant (calls will be recorded so you can watch back afterwards). You'll also receive free entry to my Love Ladies community for two months (worth £32). Calls will be scheduled to suit the needs of the group. For guidance, the latest they will begin is 7 pm and we'll always finish by 8:30 pm. I aim for Tues, Wed or Thurs evenings but we can be flexible, depending on the group. You also have the opportunity to connect with the other women on the call, forming supportive relationships that can last a long time.
To secure your place, please transfer £199 via Paypal to paypal.me/KatherineBaldwin. If you have any questions or if you'd like to discuss if this course is for you, click below to arrange an exploratory call or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Here is some more feedback from women who have taken the course or who have been coached by me:
"I have found this course extremely useful in helping me to identify my patterns and blocks to love. It has encouraged me to get in touch with finding out what I want and need in my life and to create a vision of the kind of love I am looking for" - course participant, 2017
"This course has been so helpful to connect more deeply to myself and what I really want from life. It's helped to nurture my ability to look after myself so that I am in a more grounded, confident place to meet a lovely man and hopefully forge a lifelong relationship with him. It's given me more confidence in my ability to trust my gut feelings about all aspects of life - from when to take a break and sit with a cup of tea to how to identify healthy attractions and unhealthy patterns of attraction and behaviour. I really recommend this course to anyone who wants to live more authentically and in a wholehearted way. Whether you are looking to 'fall in love' or not, it's a great way to develop your ability to know and look after yourself" - course participant, February 2017
"When it comes to my love life, I'm full of ideas about how I'd like it to be, and often convinced I'll never get what I want. Katherine's course has helped me to stop letting my imagination run riot but instead to focus on the practical steps I can take to create the life I want. She has taught me so much. I've learned to take better care of myself and that I need to treat myself well if I want others to treat me well. I've learned I can find happiness without a man (as much as I'd like one), that I can set boundaries and stick to them and that I deserve to put my best interests first. Katherine's videos are honest, helpful and full of practical tips (rather than wishy-washy suggestions). This course requires commitment and because Katherine takes my welfare in the world of dating seriously, so do I. She is encouraging and understanding. She's been where I am so I trust her experience," - Claire, 33, journalist, February 2017.